Got a teenager at home? I bet you’re on the struggle bus. Anxiety. Mood swings. Defiance. Lack of motivation. Teens are going through a lot, and the hardest part is, they don’t want to talk about it.

At least that’s how it appears. Of course they want to talk about their problems — they just don’t want to talk to them with you, their mom or dad. More and more Gen Zers are turning to me and other certified teen life coaches to share their thoughts and anxieties, find new perspectives, and feel less alone. What is it that we do that so many parents don’t? We listen. Really listen.

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This article originally appeared on Medium.com’s Forge.